Do you blame others for what goes wrong in your life? Is it always someone else's fault? Do you look to the future and can only see bad things ahead for you? Do you identify with those who have a complaint or talk about how someone is always doing them wrong? If you do, you may have a "Victim Mentality." It's an attitude that sees everything as negative and never takes responsibility for anything. This attitude is a way of thinking that destroys all hope and any thought of becoming better or wiser in life. It defeats you even before the fight begins. You easily quit things and soon become angry at life. There is hope and an answer for overcoming it. It usually begins with forgiving something or someone who has abused you or has caused you to be afraid. Next, you forgive yourself, if for nothing else; maybe you were afraid and put up with it. Maybe you feel guilty and feel like you deserved it (which you don't). There is a time when we have to forgive ourselves for doing, or not doing, something we regretted. Once this is done, you are on your way to changing your life and moving forward. You have to start somewhere and sometime. This is a great day to begin.

Just a thought, God bless.

PSS

In our society and culture, some people just can't handle any type of correction. Some will say it hurts their self-esteem and mental health. I believe people react to correction in two ways. First, they accept it, process it, and make the necessary corrections in their behavior or attitude that is required to do a better job. The second reaction is, unfortunately, quickly becoming the norm, rather than the exception; that is, they see correction as abuse. This is one way to determine if you have a "victim mentality." If anyone corrects a person who thinks wrong, they will say things like, "...the policeman was mean to me...the teacher doesn't like me...my parents are just awful to me..." and it goes on and on. It was never, "I was speeding and deserved the ticket...I was out of line in class and shouldn't have done what I did...my parents loved me and disciplined me properly." The difference is that the victim sees it as abuse, while the person who is moving forward sees it for what it is: correction for bad behavior or a mistake made. Isn't it interesting that God corrects those He loves, and too many of us see correction as bad?

Just a thought, God bless.

PSS

Well, the first week of 2011 is over. As we look ahead, all of us need to understand that once time is spent, we can never get it back. There are no do-overs when it comes to the past. As such, let's make 2011 a year where we spend our time wisely. Lets make our lives count and make a difference in other people's lives. Don&'t make resolutions just because it's "the thing to do." Instead, let's make commitments because it's right and we are willing. Every year, people start out with great intentions, but as all of us have learned, great intentions don't get anything done. It's following through that gets things done. Let's commit to making a big difference for good in this world and watch, as our own world gets bigger in the process. The world of the generous gets larger and larger as the world of the stingy gets smaller and smaller. I hope everyone has a great 2011 as we make a difference in other people's lives.

Just a thought, God bless.

PSS

Welcome to 2011! It seems that just yesterday I was thinking about having to write "2010." Time is going by so fast! I hope you had a great Christmas. As we begin the New Year, I pray all of us become more heavenly-minded and turn our focus to spiritual things rather than being so earthly-minded and focusing on the here-and-now. The decisions we make would then be over how to put God first, serving, tithing, attending church more, and how to do more of His Word. As you sit back and ponder last year, lets also look forward and begin to make commitments and decisions for our lives, not just New Years' resolutions that will, for most of us, be broken within the first week. Let's put God first in our lives and commit to look to Him and really know Him, not just know about Him. This is the only way for our lives to change for the better. It's up to you and no one else to make the changes necessary to really enjoy the life God has blessed us with.

Just a thought, God bless.

PSS

It is that time of year again: Christmas. It should be all about acknowledging the birth of our Savior, Jesus, and to be thankful for our salvation. We should also meditate on how God will forgive mankind because of Jesus' sacrifice by coming to earth and dying on a cross. He was raised from the dead on the third day and whoever believes on Him will have eternal life. Only now, Christmas is more about family, presents, and food than it is about serving our Lord Jesus Christ. Those things aren't bad, but it's not what we are supposed to be celebrating. It should be about our thankfulness to God, and how to make our relationship with Him and church our highest priority. This year, I pray you have a Merry Christmas and that you remember we are celebrating the birth and resurrection of our Lord and Savior, Jesus. Take a moment and look up Romans 10:9-13 and pray it out loud. Let Jesus know how thankful you are to Him for His sacrifice. Merry Christmas!

Just a thought, God bless.

PSS