“Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on” (Criss Jami). A grudge is a persistent feeling of ill will or resentment, resulting from a past insult or injury. In order to move forward in life, we must be able to let go of the past, including past hurts and even past success. Hurts seem obvious, but why should we let go of past success?  You can build on past successes, but you can’t live on what you did yesterday. We continually have to improve ourselves. Things like grudges will not only hold us back in every area of our lives, they can also destroy our lives. In life, no one owes us anything. It’s up to us to do the right thing, work hard, and be kind and respectful. When we are wronged in life, and we all will be, we have to develop a short memory. In sports, coaches always want their best shooters and their quarterbacks to have short memories. Why?  Short memories are necessary because they forget about the missed shot, or the interception the quarterback threw. If they don’t, they will lose confidence; the basketball player will stop shooting and the quarterback will begin to second guess himself. To move past a grudge, remember to have a short memory so that you can let go of the hurtful things people have done to you and forgive them. That way, you won’t lose confidence in yourself and will be able to move forward in life.