What we think about ourselves, our family life, our work life etc., is very important. It will determine our success or failure and how much we are willing to attempt and accomplish in life. It will determine the health and welfare of our families and all of our relationships. Our self-concept will determine who we associate with.
Self-defeating thinking will limit us in all of these areas. People with this line of thinking will continue in a cycle of bitterness, depression, anger, cynicism and low self-esteem. They will always be overwhelmed and refuse any help so that they can do it themselves. They’ll say things like “I’ve done too many bad things for God to forgive me” This is an example of wrong thinking. This person self-sabotages themselves because they de-value their life. Here are some ways to defeat self-sabotaging thoughts:
• Complete something like a project, so you can think better of yourself and let go of bitterness and a critical spirit.
• Be able to identify this pattern of thinking immediately and recognize the “symptoms” so that you can begin to humble yourself and seek help.
• Allow God to heal your hearts and minds, and to realize you are valuable and you do have worth.
Ask God to begin to heal you and help you to become a person who believes in yourself, and to realize that by the sacrifice of Jesus, He has made you worthy to receive good things.

Just a Thought,

PSS

Legacychurch.com

Everyone has a comfort zone or a “confidence zone”. Again, a comfort zone is the place that we feel the most confident in. It’s the place where all is well. It’s the “middle of the road” place. For many, it’s the difference between true success and average, or doing just enough to get by. I believe a person’s comfort zone is determined by two fears: fear of rejection and fear of failure. We have to remember that everyone fails from time to time; just remind yourself that it’s not fatal, just temporary. The distance between the two is what makes up the comfort zone. The wider the space, the greater the capacity we’ll have to succeed and try new things. We can then attempt and achieve more. The less space between the two, the more we limit our abilities and potential.

In a large zone, it’s where we feel the safest and the most confident. If you take people higher, they will work to get back to the place where they are the most comfortable. If you take them lower, they will do the same. People with a wide comfort zone will think in terms like “What if I can...”. Those that are average and limit themselves think in terms of “What if I can’t…” There’s a big difference. Let’s try not to be “average” and limit ourselves. If we strive to grow and develop in this area, the sky’s the limit.

Just a Thought,

PSS

Legacychurch.com

Everyone has a comfort zone, or, some may refer to it as a “confidence zone”. The comfort zone is the place we feel the most confident in, and the place where all is well. It’s the “middle of the road” place. It’s been said that most people have two types of fears: fear of rejection and fear of failure. The distance between them will determine the width and size of your comfort zone. The closer your fears are, the smaller the zone; the wider the distance between your fears, the larger your comfort zone. In order to widen the gap, we must be willing to grow and change.

Pat Robertson said there are generally three reasons why people begin to change: need, frustration or depression. We have to step out in faith so that our confidence zone does not restrict our potential. Many of us have incredible potential that will never be realized because of our fears of rejection and failure. Everyone fails, but the lesson is that it’s not fatal and that everyone faces rejection at some point. Learn to accept that not everyone is going to like or accept you. We should develop a sense of who we are and grow from our mistakes. We should learn to deal gracefully with setbacks. The larger and wider you comfort zone is, more opportunities will come your way. It’s not a matter of “What if I can’t,” it’s a matter of “What if I CAN…”

Just a Thought,

PSS

Legacychurch.com

Success happens on purpose and you have to cultivate it to experience it; but for some, they have wrong thinking, therefore they don’t experience it like they could. Self-defeating thinking is one of the culprits that keep us from achieving and being more successful in our lives. Here are some characteristics of people who have self-defeating thinking:
• The people who think like this are stuck in a cycle of bitterness, depression, anger and cynicism.
• They don’t feel like they are worth anything and constantly feel overwhelmed.
• They start finishing things, but never finish them because if they actually finished a task, they would feel better about themselves and have a sense of accomplishment.
• They refuse help or assistance.
These people are the same way in relationships because they won’t allow themselves to ever feel good about themselves, so they fail over and over again. We have to break out of this cycle before it destroys any more lives. Once we recognize this type of mentality, we can correct it. We must realize that we are worth something and have value. It’s ok to feel good about ourselves and who we are as people. Let go of unforgiveness and blaming others for your life. Move forward from where you are and remember from time to time that all of us need help. Don’t allow yourself to sabotage your own success.

In our quest for excellence, we must guard ourselves from being critical, jealous and uninformed people. They usually say things that have no impact whatsoever on the truth. A person who is constantly critical of others constantly compares themselves to other people. It’s a trap that all of us should be wary of, and would be wise to avoid.  When we strive for excellence, work hard and see the best in every situation, we will refuse to allow obstacles like jealousy sideline us. Mediocre people seem to be tamed and subdued by obstacles, but excellence always rises above them. In times of adversity, you don’t have an obstacle to overcome, you have a choice to make. Don’t become critical; just strive to be the best. Make sure that what you speak brings forth good fruit; that it helps and doesn’t hinder. It is becoming increasingly difficult to find people who have an excellent spirit about them. In order to be successful in any area of life, we have to strive to do the best and not become critical.